The fastest way to add someone on Discord

To add a connection on Discord, you need their username and the four-digit tag that comes after it — for example, priya#4829. Open Discord, click the Friends icon (the person with a plus sign) in the left sidebar, type their username and tag into the search box, and click "Send Friend Request". They will see your request in their Friends tab and can accept or decline it.

If you already know their username but not their tag, ask them directly — there is no way to search by partial username alone. Once they accept your request, they appear in your Friends list and you can message them, call them, or invite them to servers you both belong to.

Key Takeaways

  • You need someone's full username and four-digit tag (like username#1234) to send them a friend request through the Friends menu.
  • Friend requests go to the other person's Friends tab, where they can accept, decline, or ignore them.
  • You can also add people by right-clicking their name in a server chat or member list and selecting "Add Friend".
  • Blocking someone removes them from your Friends list and prevents them from messaging you or seeing when you are online.
  • Discord does not notify you when someone removes you as a friend, but you will no longer see them in your Friends list.

Finding someone's username and tag

The easiest way to get someone's username and tag is to ask them directly. You can also find it by looking at their profile — if you are in the same server, right-click their name in the chat or member list and select "View Profile". Their full username with tag appears at the top of their profile card.

If you are not in a shared server, you can ask them to send you a message first. Once they message you, their username and tag appear in the chat, and you can copy it from there. Some people also share their Discord username on other platforms like Twitter or in Discord server directories.

Adding someone from a server you both belong to

If you are already in the same Discord server, you do not need to search for their username. Open the server member list by clicking the server name at the top, then scroll through the members or use the search box to find them. Right-click their name and select "Add Friend". Your request goes to them the same way as if you had searched for them manually.

This method is useful when you meet someone in a server chat and want to stay connected outside that server. They still have to accept your request before you can message them privately, but the process is faster than typing out their full username and tag.

What happens after you send a friend request

When you send a friend request, the other person sees it in their Friends tab under "Pending". They can accept it (which adds you to their Friends list), decline it (which removes the request), or ignore it (which leaves it sitting there). You will see a notification when they accept, but Discord does not tell you if they decline or ignore your request.

If someone declines your request, you can send another one later, but sending repeated requests to someone who has declined is considered harassment. If they have not responded after a few days, it is reasonable to assume they are not interested in connecting.

Managing your Friends list and removing connections

Your Friends list shows everyone who has accepted your friend request or whose request you have accepted. To remove someone, right-click their name in your Friends list and select "Remove Friend". This removes them from your list, but it does not block them — they can still message you or see when you are online unless you block them separately.

If you want to prevent someone from messaging you or seeing your online status, right-click their name and select "Block". A blocked person cannot send you messages, call you, or add you to servers. You can unblock them later the same way. Discord does not notify the other person when you block or remove them.

Accepting or declining friend requests from others

When someone sends you a friend request, you see it in your Friends tab under "Pending". Click "Accept" to add them to your Friends list, or "Decline" to reject the request. If you are unsure about someone, you can leave the request pending — it will stay there until you decide.

If you decline a request, the other person does not get a notification that you declined. They will only know if they check back and see that their request is no longer there. You can also ignore requests by not responding to them, though this does not remove them from your pending list.

Troubleshooting common connection problems

If you cannot find someone's username, the most common reason is a typo in the tag number. Discord usernames are case-insensitive, but the four-digit tag must be exact. Ask them to confirm their full username and tag, including the number after the hashtag.

If your friend request is not going through, check that you are typing the username correctly and that you have not already sent them a request that is still pending. You cannot send a second request until they respond to the first one. If you are trying to add someone from a server, make sure you are right-clicking their actual name in the member list, not a nickname they have set for that server.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I add someone without knowing their tag number?

No, you need the full username and four-digit tag to search for someone. If you know their username but not the tag, ask them directly or look for them in a server member list where you can see their full username with tag.

What is the difference between removing a friend and blocking them?

Removing a friend takes them off your Friends list, but they can still message you and see when you are online. Blocking prevents them from messaging you, calling you, or seeing your online status. You can remove someone without blocking them.

Do people get notified when I send them a friend request?

They see the request in their Friends tab, but Discord does not send them a notification unless they have notifications turned on for friend requests. They will see it when they open Discord and check their Friends tab.

Can I add someone if they have their friend requests turned off?

No, if someone has disabled friend requests in their privacy settings, you cannot send them a request. You would need to ask them to enable friend requests or add you themselves. Some servers also have bots that can introduce people without direct friend requests.

What happens if someone removes me as a friend?

Discord does not notify you when someone removes you. You will only notice if you check your Friends list and they are no longer there. You can send them a new friend request if you want to reconnect.